When someone you love is wrongly accused of something it is very difficult to take the high road.
Chief volunteers for a sports board here in town out of his love for the game. Through a long chain of events, through decisions made by a board of six people (Chief was one of six board members and for the record, the initial decision was one he did not advocate for), some very nasty things were "said" by some parents. Instead of questioning the decision that was made, which is perfectly reasonable, a few parents resorted to flinging mud. They accused the board of having an agenda and working for 10 months to accomplish that agenda. I honestly felt like I was back in high school. And what made the whole situation so hurtful was that the parents that flung mud knew the members of the board personally. Interestingly, what was "said" was through the safety and distance of email... not one person had the nuts to say their accusations in person. Chief told me in the mist of the initial mud slinging that he knows what he did and why he did the things he did, so the nasty comments did not mean much to him. Wow. How is that for the high road?
Through it all, I have stayed on the high road... at least in the public eye. But let me tell you, I have flung mud and wallowed on the low road behind closed doors. It is too long a story to tell and really not worth the time or effort to retell. As time has passed, I have learned it really does not matter. I have learned that my issues are not with a lot of people, just a few so I can keep things in perspective. And while I won't forget who threw the mud so quickly at my husband (and indirectly our family), I know God knows the situation, he knows the people involved and will judge all accordingly.
My first reaction was not to pray through this. But over the last few weeks I have. And, I have some peace over the situation. I will continue to walk with my eyes on the high road and maybe a little wiser... I know I will eye-ball the low road though (who am I kidding). But I will pray that God helps keep me off it.
I thought of this ..."When you sling mud at people, some will inevitably stick to you." I know all this is more of a reflection on the other people, but… it still hurts. And, another piece of advice... do not ever say anything in email that you are not willing to say to someone in person.