Day 30: I am very thankful for Chief. After over 15 years of marriage, I still smile when I think of him. While marriage can be hard and life can get in the way for time spent together, I would not want to walk through this life with anyone other than Chief.
Another year of a month of thankfulness! This will be a yearly tradition because while I might not post every day, this exercise makes me keenly aware of all the blessings I have in my life.
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Tuesday, November 22, 2011
Thankful: Day 18, 19, 20, 21, 22
Day 18 - traveling with good friends to see another good friend. So nice to spend time talking with adults and catching up. And, a delicious dinner.
Day 19 - watching the 4th Twilight movie during the day and shopping and eating out… all without interruptions, refereeing, or yelling.
Day 20 - see Chief after a few days away. I love that man.
Day 21 - watching Lizard practice basketball. Although she is tiny, she is quick and is learning a lot.
Day 22 - becoming a mom 12 years ago today.
Day 19 - watching the 4th Twilight movie during the day and shopping and eating out… all without interruptions, refereeing, or yelling.
Day 20 - see Chief after a few days away. I love that man.
Day 21 - watching Lizard practice basketball. Although she is tiny, she is quick and is learning a lot.
Day 22 - becoming a mom 12 years ago today.
Sunday, November 6, 2011
Thankful: Day 5 & Day 6
Day 5 - time alone with Chief. Between work, activities and life in general, time without interruptions is few and far between. Even thought we just ran to the mall to help me find new jeans, it was so nice to spend a few hours alone.
Day 6 - watching Soccer Girl on the soccer field. She is a natural athlete and so fun to watch. I am so proud to be her Mom.
Day 6 - watching Soccer Girl on the soccer field. She is a natural athlete and so fun to watch. I am so proud to be her Mom.
Friday, June 17, 2011
Marriage
I have come across the topic of marriage from many different directions over the last few weeks. I posted about being on guard with my own marriage and how I want to protect it. That very same day, I read this post at We are THAT Family. I think this post is a beautiful summary of what I want my kids to know about marriage and what it means to be committed. What is God telling me with all these prompts?
And, if you haven't read Kristin over at We are THAT Family, you should. She is one of my daily reads… very insightful, challenging, funny and honest.
And, if you haven't read Kristin over at We are THAT Family, you should. She is one of my daily reads… very insightful, challenging, funny and honest.
Friday, June 3, 2011
On Guard
A few weeks back I was talking to someone about the divorce statistic like one in five couples end up in divorce. Don’t quote me on the statistic, I haven’t Googled it or anything; but it is something like that. I said you look around our neighborhood and of the 70 or so homes; divorce has had to impact some of them. At the time, I didn’t know of anyone. I speculated in my mind who might be “one” of the five (purely based on rumor or speculation). Well yesterday, the “one” was identified. A neighbor’s house around the corner had a new For Sale sign out front. Another neighbor’s daughter happened to be in the car with us when we saw the sign. When I commented on the sign, she said they were getting a divorce (according to her mother who knows the family). What a life changing event. The mom has gone back to work, the kids have lost their stablility, the Dad is not involved on a day to day basis… now they are losing their family home. I do not know them well other then an occasion wave or quick conversation. But, my heart just aches for the two of them and their kids.
Just yesterday I ran into another statistic on the internet that about 65% of divorces are not the plate throwing messy splits your read about. That 65% of divorces are because the couple just fell out of love, had a mediocre marriage or just drifted apart and wanted different things.
These few promptings really have put on me how much I need to guard my own marriage. Chief and I have a wonderful marriage. He is my best friend and can make me laugh like no one else. We work well together… we can bounce ideas off each other and usually come up with a good plan. My heart still skips when I think of him; not every time (heck we have been married for 14 years), but it does still skip! But, with the busyness of life, I think we take for granted how well we like each other and we take for granted that we will always like each other. If we do not guard against the distractions of the world, we could wake up to find we are the “one in five”; not the plate throwers (I will want to take my dishes with me!), but one of the 65% that just drifted apart.
Disclaimer: Our marriage is not in trouble! Please don’t read this as a foreshadowing of an impending divorce. Far from it. We have a wonderful relationship… not without bumps like any marriage… but a wonderful one. This has just got me thinking that divorce could happen to anyone (even to those that say divorce is not an option) if you do not guard yourselves and your relationship.
Ok back to my thoughts… So as Chief and I celebrate our 14th wedding anniversary in a few days, I am going to guard my marriage. I am going to protect what we have. I am going to put our relationship on the top of the list and I am going to edit things out to be able to do that. My marriage is a precious gift to me. I love you Chief.
Monday, May 9, 2011
The High Road
When someone you love is wrongly accused of something it is very difficult to take the high road.
Chief volunteers for a sports board here in town out of his love for the game. Through a long chain of events, through decisions made by a board of six people (Chief was one of six board members and for the record, the initial decision was one he did not advocate for), some very nasty things were "said" by some parents. Instead of questioning the decision that was made, which is perfectly reasonable, a few parents resorted to flinging mud. They accused the board of having an agenda and working for 10 months to accomplish that agenda. I honestly felt like I was back in high school. And what made the whole situation so hurtful was that the parents that flung mud knew the members of the board personally. Interestingly, what was "said" was through the safety and distance of email... not one person had the nuts to say their accusations in person. Chief told me in the mist of the initial mud slinging that he knows what he did and why he did the things he did, so the nasty comments did not mean much to him. Wow. How is that for the high road?
Through it all, I have stayed on the high road... at least in the public eye. But let me tell you, I have flung mud and wallowed on the low road behind closed doors. It is too long a story to tell and really not worth the time or effort to retell. As time has passed, I have learned it really does not matter. I have learned that my issues are not with a lot of people, just a few so I can keep things in perspective. And while I won't forget who threw the mud so quickly at my husband (and indirectly our family), I know God knows the situation, he knows the people involved and will judge all accordingly.
My first reaction was not to pray through this. But over the last few weeks I have. And, I have some peace over the situation. I will continue to walk with my eyes on the high road and maybe a little wiser... I know I will eye-ball the low road though (who am I kidding). But I will pray that God helps keep me off it.
I thought of this ..."When you sling mud at people, some will inevitably stick to you." I know all this is more of a reflection on the other people, but… it still hurts. And, another piece of advice... do not ever say anything in email that you are not willing to say to someone in person.
Chief volunteers for a sports board here in town out of his love for the game. Through a long chain of events, through decisions made by a board of six people (Chief was one of six board members and for the record, the initial decision was one he did not advocate for), some very nasty things were "said" by some parents. Instead of questioning the decision that was made, which is perfectly reasonable, a few parents resorted to flinging mud. They accused the board of having an agenda and working for 10 months to accomplish that agenda. I honestly felt like I was back in high school. And what made the whole situation so hurtful was that the parents that flung mud knew the members of the board personally. Interestingly, what was "said" was through the safety and distance of email... not one person had the nuts to say their accusations in person. Chief told me in the mist of the initial mud slinging that he knows what he did and why he did the things he did, so the nasty comments did not mean much to him. Wow. How is that for the high road?
Through it all, I have stayed on the high road... at least in the public eye. But let me tell you, I have flung mud and wallowed on the low road behind closed doors. It is too long a story to tell and really not worth the time or effort to retell. As time has passed, I have learned it really does not matter. I have learned that my issues are not with a lot of people, just a few so I can keep things in perspective. And while I won't forget who threw the mud so quickly at my husband (and indirectly our family), I know God knows the situation, he knows the people involved and will judge all accordingly.
My first reaction was not to pray through this. But over the last few weeks I have. And, I have some peace over the situation. I will continue to walk with my eyes on the high road and maybe a little wiser... I know I will eye-ball the low road though (who am I kidding). But I will pray that God helps keep me off it.
I thought of this ..."When you sling mud at people, some will inevitably stick to you." I know all this is more of a reflection on the other people, but… it still hurts. And, another piece of advice... do not ever say anything in email that you are not willing to say to someone in person.
Friday, March 5, 2010
Amazing
Good news came through for Chief. He will be starting a great new job at the end of the month. He has been able to resign from his current employer which in and of itself is a huge blessing (think working for a manager that supports none of your decisions, is unethical/falsifies documents and is power hungry at the cost of her people). And that he is going to a great new opportunity is just icing on the cake.
While no job is perfect and the new one will have ups and down for sure, it is an exciting opportunity in a growing industry. His expereince has been recognized and rewarded. I am so proud of him and happy for him.
We have prayed for a new opportunity for a loooonng time and have been frustrated when things have fallen through in the past. We now see why God was waiting for this time, for this opportunity. I just need to trust more.
While no job is perfect and the new one will have ups and down for sure, it is an exciting opportunity in a growing industry. His expereince has been recognized and rewarded. I am so proud of him and happy for him.
We have prayed for a new opportunity for a loooonng time and have been frustrated when things have fallen through in the past. We now see why God was waiting for this time, for this opportunity. I just need to trust more.
Sunday, February 14, 2010
Valentine's Day
Today is the day of "love" the day to show everyone you love just how much you love them. The idea of the day is great - take time to say you love a person. Chief and I did not exchange anything, mostly due to lack of time and saving our budget. I got the kids each a little something which they enjoyed.
But honestly, I think it is kind of a silly holiday. Spending tons of money on flowers that die and endless candy and other things (I think I have Chief convinced NOT to buy me any more roses; I am more of a fresh-cut wild-flower kind of girl and think spending $80 on roses which keel over in just a few days is a waste!). I think it is the everyday things that show you love someone...the random flowers given for no reason at all or a letter telling someone why they are so special to you. Those are the things that I love.
One of the best romantic memories I have with Chief was one of our first dates ( I think our 3rd?)... we spent the day wine tasting in Napa. We went to several, but the one that stands out was one where you take a tram to the top of a hill where the tasting room was. The day was a perfect spring day - not too hot and not too cool. Just perfect. We sat outside on the patio. It was back in the day when tasting was free and they just kept filling our glasses, brought cheese and crackers. We just talked for hours. I don't remember what we talked about, but I do remember after after that day, I knew I was in love with him. It was just perfect! Now almost 14 years later, I am still in love with him and it is just perfect... still.
Happy Valentine's Day.
But honestly, I think it is kind of a silly holiday. Spending tons of money on flowers that die and endless candy and other things (I think I have Chief convinced NOT to buy me any more roses; I am more of a fresh-cut wild-flower kind of girl and think spending $80 on roses which keel over in just a few days is a waste!). I think it is the everyday things that show you love someone...the random flowers given for no reason at all or a letter telling someone why they are so special to you. Those are the things that I love.
One of the best romantic memories I have with Chief was one of our first dates ( I think our 3rd?)... we spent the day wine tasting in Napa. We went to several, but the one that stands out was one where you take a tram to the top of a hill where the tasting room was. The day was a perfect spring day - not too hot and not too cool. Just perfect. We sat outside on the patio. It was back in the day when tasting was free and they just kept filling our glasses, brought cheese and crackers. We just talked for hours. I don't remember what we talked about, but I do remember after after that day, I knew I was in love with him. It was just perfect! Now almost 14 years later, I am still in love with him and it is just perfect... still.
Happy Valentine's Day.
Tuesday, November 10, 2009
Love Your Man
Can I just say, I love my man...Chief? Cause I do. We are undergoing change, but I am more in love with Chief than ever. We are in this together and that is a very comforting place to be.
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